Loneliness – Recognising and Supporting
Loneliness is a common experience, with around 3 million people in England reporting feeling lonely often over the last two years. Recognising the signs and knowing how to offer support can make a significant difference. Here’s how you can help.
“May your home always be too small to hold all of your friends”
Recognising the Signs of Loneliness
Loneliness is unique to each individual, and people may experience it differently. However, some common signs can indicate that someone might be feeling lonely:
Withdrawal from Social Activities: They may avoid gatherings or events, even those they previously enjoyed.
Changes in Behaviour: Look for signs of sadness, irritability, or anxiety that seem out of character.
Physical Symptoms: Unexplained aches, fatigue, or changes in appetite can sometimes be linked to loneliness.
Seeking Excessive Contact: They might frequently call, text, or seek face-to-face interactions, indicating they are craving connection.
Strategies to Support Someone Feeling Lonely
When you notice someone showing signs of loneliness, your support can have a profound impact. Here are some effective strategies to help them:
Be There
Simply being present can provide immense comfort. Your physical or virtual presence can reassure them that they are not alone.
Reassure Them
Remind them that it’s okay to feel how they’re feeling and that loneliness can affect anyone. Normalising their feelings can reduce any shame or guilt they might experience.
Be Patient
Understand that overcoming loneliness is a process that takes time. Be patient as they work through their feelings.
Listen
Use the SHUSH active listening tips to ensure they feel heard and understood:
Show You Care: Give them your full attention.
Have Patience: Allow them to express themselves without rushing them.
Use Open Questions: Encourage them to share more by asking open-ended questions.
Say It Back: Reflect their words to show you’ve understood.
Have Courage: Be prepared to hear difficult emotions and respond with empathy.
Professional Resources for Further Help
Sometimes, additional support from professional resources can be beneficial. Here are two organisations that can provide further assistance:
Samaritans offer emotional support and a listening ear 24/7. They can be reached at https://www.samaritans.org/
Marmalade Trust focuses on raising awareness of loneliness and providing support to those affected. More information can be found at https://www.marmaladetrust.org/.
Recognising and supporting someone who is lonely involves patience, empathy, and active listening. By being there and offering reassurance, you can make a meaningful difference in their life. Remember, professional resources like Samaritans and Marmalade Trust are also available to provide additional support.
If you or someone you know is struggling with loneliness, don’t hesitate to reach out for help. Together, we can create a more connected and supportive community.
Further Reading: The Power of a Positive Mindset